Extramarital relationship prediction model based on personality traits and attachment styles mediated by self-control, conflict management and forgiveness

Introduction & Objective: Among all institutions, organizations and social facilities, the family has a significant role and importance. All those who have thought about the organization of society have emphasized the family and its vital importance for society. In fact, no society can claim health if it does not have healthy families, and there is certainly no social harm that arises regardless of the influence of the family. Therefore, the main purpose of this study is to provide prediction of extramarital relationships based on personality traits and attachment styles mediated by self-control, conflict management and forgiveness. According to Doodle and Kasenki (2018), the source of marital conflict can be due to social contexts that include changes in people's relationships for various reasons, including changes in knowledge, attitudes and insights gained through different and social changes, or differences. Perception created in couples, which includes seeing the situation differently to start and continue life from the couple, these perceptual differences are due to learning and training that the person willingly or unwillingly understands and receives. Conflict management can be a predictor of many processes in couples communication. Because extramarital affairs is one of the most critical issues that couples face and because infidelity undermines the most basic component of the marital relationship which is trust. Therefore, it leaves huge destructive effects on the life of the couple. In the meantime, most of all, the spouse who has been betrayed and betrayed will be harmed and will cause mental health disorders and loss of emotional and behavioral balance, as well as the problems of divorce and the breakdown of marital life. Sense of revenge, psychological harm to children is one of the consequences of betrayal. Looking at the background of studies on extramarital relationships, it can be seen that in Iran, little research has been done directly on extramarital relationships, including gender differences in committing extramarital relationships and its underlying factors in Iran due to cultural and social factors. The family is one of the most important social systems based on marriage between the opposite sex. Maintaining and maintaining a family is very important, and since extramarital affairs or infidelity have become one of the social problems in recent years, addressing the root causes and the gap between them can have effective benefits for couples .Therefore, the aim of the present study is to answer the question of what is the predictive model of extramarital relationships based on personality traits and attachment styles mediated by self-control, conflict management and forgiveness?   Methods: The statistical population of this study is all married men and women who referred to family counseling centers under the supervision of Kermanshah Welfare Organization in 1397-1396. According to statistics obtained from the Welfare Organization, their number was about 420 people. The sampling method was census. The type of this research is descriptive-survey, based on applied purpose and in terms of quantitative analysis. The data collection tool was a questionnaire. In order to analyze the data, correlation tests and structural equations have been developed.   Results: The results showed that personality traits and attachment styles predict self-control, conflict management and forgiveness of extramarital relationships.   Conclusion: It is suggested that a general evaluation to identify the factors affecting marital satisfaction and the tendency to extramarital relationships, according to its role in the lives of individuals, as a factor for the development of societies, to form a strong family foundation and progress. Society to use it. Mental health is a science focused on promoting welfare, social welfare, and life health which is related to all periods (pre-birth to death) and aspects of life (family environments, school, university, appointment, and society). Besides physiological needs, human beings have emotional, moral, religious, instructional, and directional needs and healthy life is produced through fulfilling these needs and maintaining balance between them.  Personality is a collection   of   mental   characteristics   that consistently    exists    in    individuals    and influences their behaviors and thoughts. In other  words,  individuals’  personality  is  a combination  of  mental  characteristics  that are  used  for  determining  the  position  of that  individual  in  classifications. Self-control is one of the unique personality characteristics that varies from one person to another. That is, individuals with high levels of self-control depending on the extent of control they employ show different reactions and behaviors. In order to use this characteristic effectively, it should be nurtured because controlling excitements in social interactions is a very difficult task although researchers believe that public culture of a society effects the way individuals control themselves. Cultural psychology has confirmed that individuals are usually different with respect to their behaviors and through their particular behaviors are distinguished from each other; for instance, in most societies it is believed that only persons can have a personality who has stable, united and coherent characteristics and during time their personality remains unchanged and resists influence. Research has indicated that power of “self-control” in different periods of life ensures success. Agreement and conscientious are aspects of self-control because these factors respectively ensure the ability to “adapt” one’s behavior to other’s feelings and wishes and tolerate desires. Several limitations should be noted in the current study. First, thisstudy had a cross-sectional design which makes it difficult to draw anycausal relationship among the variables. In future, researchers mayconduct experimental or longitudinal studies to examine the mediationmodel.